Perspective: Two Kinds of Family

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Two Kinds of Family

When his parents saw him, they were shocked.

His mother said, "Child, why have you treated us like this?  Listen!  Your father and I have been worried.  We've been looking for you!"

Jesus replied, "Why were you looking for me?  Didn't you know that it was necessary for me to be in my Father's house?"

Luke 2:48-49 (CEB)

We don't need to be related to relate
We don't need to share genes or a surname
You are, you are
My chosen, chosen family
So what if we don't look the same?
We been going through the same thing
Yeah, you are, you are
My chosen, chosen family

From "Chosen Family" by Rina Sawayama

In the Gospel of Luke, we read that, when Jesus is twelve years old, He travels with His family to Jerusalem to celebrate Passover.  After the celebration, Jesus stays behind in Jerusalem, unbeknownst to Mary and Joseph, who think He is with some of their fellow pilgrims from Nazareth.  When they finally realize that Jesus is not among their group of travelers, they return to Jerusalem.  After they spend three days looking for Him, they finally find Him in the Temple of the Lord, discussing religious matters with the teachers.¹

Mary says to Jesus, "Child, why have you treated us like this?  Listen!  Your father and I have been worried.  We've been looking for you!"

Jesus replies, "Why were you looking for me?  Didn't you know that it was necessary for me to be in my Father's house?"

When I wrote about this story a few years ago, I pointed out how it is a foreshadowing of Jesus' crucifixion and resurrection.  When I encountered this story again recently, something else about it stood out to me.

St. Luke, writes, referring to Mary and Joseph, "Each year [Jesus'] parents went to Jerusalem for the Passover Festival."  When Mary and Joseph find Jesus at the temple, Mary says to Him, "Your father and I have been worried."  Jesus reponds by asking, "Didn't you know that it was necessary for me to be in my Father's house?"  Mary refers to her husband Joseph as Jesus' father, as does the narrator of the story, but, by referring to the Temple of the Lord as "my Father's house," Jesus implies that His Father is the God for whom the temple in which they found Him had been built.  Jesus has a father on earth, yet He has another Father in Heaven.

According to Christian teaching, Jesus is the Son of God in a very unique way.  The fact that, according to the Gospels, Mary is a virgin when Jesus is conceived is meant to point us to this truth.²  That said, because we were all created by the same loving God in the very Image of God, we are all beloved children of God.³  All of us have earthly parents who brought us into this world and also a heavenly Parent who brought us into existence.

Interestingly, in Eugene Peterson's translation of the Bible, The Message, when Mary and Joseph find Jesus at the temple, Jesus says to them, "Didn't you know that I had to be here, dealing with the things of my Father?"⁴  This version of Jesus' reply calls to my mind another story from the Gospels.

One day around twenty years later, after Jesus has started His ministry, Mary and her other sons want to see Him, but they are unable to reach Him because a crowd has gathered around Him.  Someone tells Jesus that His mother and brothers want to see Him, and He replies, "My mother and brothers are those who listen to God's word and do it."⁵  Jesus seems to be saying that He considers family anyone who is working in the family business, so to speak.  There are things in life that bind people together, causing them to experience a kinship with each other they might not experience otherwise, a kinship that has nothing to do with biology.

There is family, and then there is family.  There is the family into which a person is born, and then there is the family into which a person is baptized.  There is the family with which a person shares genes, and then there is the family with which a person shares other things, like a history or a purpose.

Whom do you consider family?


Notes:

1. A majority of this perspective is based on Luke 2:41-52.  Quotations are taken from the Common English Bible.
2. See Luke 1:30-37 and Matthew 1:20-23.
3. See Genesis 1:26-27.
4. Luke 2:49-50 (MSG)
5. Luke 8:19-21 (CEB)

The Finding of the Saviour in the Temple was painted by William Holman Hunt in 1860.

Introspection: The Part I Forgot

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The Part I Forgot

Even when I walk through the darkest valley,
I fear no danger because you are with me.

Psalm 23:4a (CEB)

There must be some other way
To get where we have to go
There must be some other way
Please show me another way

From "There Must Be Some Other Way" by Genesis

At the end of last year, I confessed that I wasn't experiencing much peace in my life, and I announced that I had decided to focus on peace in the new year.  I also noted that my first step on this journey was to start praying a prayer commonly known as the Serenity Prayer.¹  This prayer is all about accepting life as it comes and trusting God with whatever happens, so my hope is that, by regularly praying this prayer, I will become a less anxious person.  Around New Year's Day, people like to say things like, "New year, new you."  The new me I hope to become in this new year is a more serene me.

I think that the Serenity Prayer is an especially good prayer for me to pray since it reminds me of so many important truths about life.  It reminds me that there are things in life I cannot change and simply have to accept.  It also reminds me that there are actions I can take amid the things I cannot change, and that I need wisdom and courage from God to do so.  The prayer reminds me that I need to live in the moment.  After all, worrying about the future is pointless since I don't really know what the future will bring.  It reminds me that life is not like a certain fast food restaurant that once promised that you can "have it your way."  It reminds me that God knows what is best and that I need to trust God to bring something good out of whatever happens.

A few weeks ago, on my first day back to work after my holiday break, I rewarded myself for returning to work by taking a long walk around the park afterward.  I had set my phone to remind me twice a day to pray the Serenity Prayer, and, while I was walking, I received my afternoon reminder.  I didn't want to look up the words on my phone at the moment, so I attempted to pray the prayer from memory.²  I discovered that, since I had started praying the prayer regularly, I had mostly memorized it.  I couldn't recite it precisely word-for-word, but I knew it point-by-point.  I repeated the prayer in my mind and reflected upon the different parts of it as I walked.  I was happy that this prayer had started to sink in, at least in one way.

The next morning, when I prayed the prayer while looking at the words, I discovered that I had forgotten one part of the prayer when I tried to pray it from memory the previous day.  The part I had forgotten was the line about "accepting hardship as a pathway to peace."  It says a lot that I would forget this particular part.  Though it is the part of the prayer I seemingly want to remember the least, it is probably the part I need to remember the most.  I want peace in my life, but I do not want what is supposed to lead me to it.  I want be there, but I don't really want to get there.

I speculated previously that the people who have an abiding peace in God are the people who have been through difficult times and have found God to be faithful in the midst of them.  They know that God brought them through hardships they faced in the past, and they are confident that God will bring them through any hardships they will face in the future.  They have learned to trust God, so they do not worry.

I know that God will go with me through the dark valleys of life, but I still don't want to go through the dark valleys I fear might be ahead of me.

Lately, as I've prayed the Serenity Prayer, I've remembered another prayer.  During the night before Jesus was betrayed by a good friend, arrested by a mob, put on trial, and executed by crucifixion, He prayed to God, saying, "Father, if you are willing, remove this cup from me; yet, not my will but yours be done."³  Jesus knew what was ahead of Him, and naturally He did not want to go through it.  He also knew that there might not be another option for Him, so He surrendered His own will to God's and trusted God with whatever lay ahead of Him.  Because He went through the crucifixion, God resurrected Him, thereby giving a new hope to the world.

The "crosses" I face in life are nothing compared to the cross Jesus bore, yet I figure I cannot go wrong by praying as He prayed.  I can pray that God spares me from the things I fear right now, acknowledging that God might not choose to do so.  I can pray that, if it is indeed God's will that I face these ordeals, God gives me wisdom and strength in the midst of them and brings me through them with a greater sense of peace.


Notes:

1. The Serenity Prayer is attributed to theologian Reinhold Niebuhr.
2. The version of the prayer I've been praying is the longer version found at the following link: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Serenity_Prayer#Versions
3. Luke 22:42 (NRSV)

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